Abstinence

I’ve had some Aussie mates in town for the last week or more and today they left. I went for my first swim in over a week and now I’m sitting in front of the TV just chilling out.

I love having people come and visit and these particular friends were awesome guests but, it does make me appreciate my own time.

Since I’m sitting here I thought I’d throw out one of my more controversial posts. I love my politics and I love discussing issues with different people but it is something I try and stay away from on this blog. If you guys tell me that I should stick to speedos then please let me know.

I thought I’d post about abstinence for two reasons – firstly, the idea came to me because I think that my recent dry spell has beaten my previous ‘personal best’ time in “abstinence“. Secondly, as a social democrat and fiscal republican, 90% of my friends wouldn’t agree with all of my opinions and I’m polite enuf to know when to say what I think and when to be quiet….. but this is my blog so I get to say whatever the hell I want.

That is why I started this blog – I had a threesome with a couple and I had nobody to share it with.

In the forest, a gay guy believed in abstinence, the religious zealots screamed that he can’t get married….. did anyone else hear that?

Before my time people cried, from Stonewall to family homes.

Their cries mean that I, can ignore the screaming.

I grew up in a Catholic family that made me go to church every Sunday morning at 10am.  I understand the difference between a Sunni Muslim and a Shiite Muslim but I still don’t know why I was made to get up at 10am on every Sunday for the first 15yrs of my life.

Anyways back to ‘abstinence’.

After finding this photo I looked up CoolVirginity.com.  I could write for ever about this website but one thing did hit a personal cord with me their article on the article on ‘The Silent STD’ – which I was told was Chlamydia.

I’m not going to give any advice on Chlamydia or what I understand it to be and do – being a blog that kind of medical advice should never be given and I for one am not in a position to give advice on any medical issue.

However, I can tell you how I first learnt about Chlamydia.  It was the first guy I ever hooked up with online – I think his name was Josh and both of us lived at home so we met out on the town at a pub.  It was just a normal city pub, very str8, I was hanging out with my str8 mates, Josh was hanging out with his str8 mates and I was wearing a red shirt, he was wearing a blue shirt and he was going to ask me if I had dropped me phone.

This was my first ‘random sexual partner’ and I was pretty careful about it.  Ends up Josh was an awesome guy, we found out a lot by being with each other and we were always safe.

Josh and I ‘experimented’ for at least 6 months – I’d like to say a year but it wasn’t that long.

After a month or so of me meeting Josh (we were only giving each other head at that stage), he told me that he felt pain going for a piss and after asking his doctor about it and he found out he had Chlamydia.  We hadn’t done much to date and I had never heard of Chlamydia.  Josh and I were both having sex with women (we were both in the closet) but both of us were 100% condom sex only.  Girls or guys – neither of us had fucked a guy…. yet.

Josh and I discussed this, I looked it up online and I decided to go to my family Doctor and ask him to test me for Chlamydia.  This Doctor detected breast cancer in my Grandmother – the Doc and my Grandmother are both Catholics.

I was soooo nervous and I didn’t tell the Doctor that I was being naked with a guy in bed (we hadn’t fucked yet). 

The Doc asked me if I was having sex (I was 18yo at the time).   I told him that I was asking him to test for Chlamydia and although he was my Doctor he wasn’t my priest….  I remember him thinking that was funny.

But because sex was an open topic with Josh, I learnt about Chlamydia.  In the end I didn’t have it BUT every year I see my family Doctor and I ask him to check me for Chlamydia (even at 23 – I have to get booster injections because I travel through asia and I don’t know which ones I need when or where).

I would never have even heard of Chlamydia had I not been sexually active. 

I know there is a bunch of people in the medical arena who read this blog and if any of you guys would like to send me some information I’d love to post it on this blog.  I am bisexual and one day I’ll have a wife and kids, me having Chlamydia could potentially have an effect on that.

I feel like I have ranted about me learning about Chlamydia but this is something I would have never learnt without being sexually active and eager to learn about these things. 

I’m a fan of education not doctorine.

I enjoyed writing this post – I don’t post something this serious very often and I encourage intelligent debate and I look forward to your comments.

Referring back to my first attempt at poetry I’ll leave you with this photo which I did get from someone else but I editted.